Posted by
Jeff on Friday, February 02, 2007 8:00:06 AM
COMMUNICATION
Research has shown us that a woman speaks 25,000 words per day and a man speaks 10,000 words per day. Do you agree?
Study has also shown that:
Intimate talk increases a man's chances of staying healthy up to 500 percent
It reduces his chance of heart failure and all of the major illnesses.
It increases the effectiveness of his immune system.
It increases his wife's happiness and health.
It increases his wife's sexual responsiveness to him.
WOW, no wonder women live longer that men! We men just don't talk enough to stay healthy and we thought what they were chattering about wasn't important.
Communication is more than just talking. Dr. Gary Smalley talks about the different levels of communicator.
Level 1. Small talk or reflex words. The lowest level of intimacy.
Level 2. Communicating impersonal facts. Simple everyday exchange of external nonpersonal information.
Level 3. Sharing opinions. This is the doorway to the most meaningful and satisfying levels.
Level 4. Sharing deep feelings. For mates to feel safe enough that they freely open up and reveal their deepest feelings to each other.
Level 5. Sharing vital relational needs (physical, mental, spiritual, and emotional). The deepest experience of marital love and satisfaction.
Level 6. Communication your beliefs. The Bible tells us that above all else, we are to guard our heart. Since our heart contains our beliefs, sharing the beliefs with each other is the deepest level of communication.
It is funny how a lot of people can set down and write blogs all day long about how they feel about certain subjects, but they can't go home and communicate with their spouse. Why is that? It is because of selfishness. Just think about it. If someone replies to your blog in a negative way you are offended. Now with blogging you can just fire back, it does not matter if you make them mad, because your mad. Now with you spouse that is a different story, you have to live with that person and the big one your spouse really knows you.
Ok, how to start.
1. Communicate honestly without judgment of the other. Listen to the other's feelings, needs, and beliefs, and openly communicate your own. Don't try to change your mate or pressure him or her to yield to our own preferences. Listen for the heart beneath the words.
2. Place on the table ideas and alternatives, discussing their pros and cons and testing each for acceptability to the other.
3. The you will find solutions that both partners like.
Now we do this everyday at our work place, so why don't we try harder to do this with the love of our life. You can do it.
Passage Matthew 22:37-40:
37Jesus replied: " 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.'
[a] 38This is the first and greatest commandment.
39And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.'
[b] 40All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments."
Passage Galatians 5:13:
13You, my brothers, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the sinful nature[a]; rather, serve one another in love.
Make the promise to serve one another in Love.
May God bless you and your family today.